This morning, Hubs and I had our son’s first parent-teacher conference of the year. We were mildly anxious and excited at the same time, wondering how it would go.
Last year, when he was 2, I recall them saying things like “James is a joy” and “he likes to sing the songs” and “recess is his favorite time.” Awww garsh, my lil’ boy’s a peach and everyone loves him.
This year, all I heard was “James hurts other kids in his class” and “He seems to target the little ones, not kids his own size” and “He has made children BLEED.”
Holy shitballs, people. My 3-year-old is the class bully.
The teachers also pointed to his less-than-ideal verbal development. James does have trouble communicating what he wants or how he feels. He talks plenty, but how much of it is understandable to others? Maybe 50% at this point.
I know there has to be a connection between his frustration of not being able to verbalize and his penchant for hitting, shoving and being rough.
BUT STILL. I feel horrible. Here’s my sweet little Boo Bear, turning all mean and beating up his classmates. And the next minute, acting all, “What? Who me? Gimme a kish.”
We pledged to his teachers that we’re going to work with him on verbalizing. I also need to stop treating like a baby and start expecting more from him, to step up and be a big boy.
Nonetheless, I know I can’t hurry up his verbal, emotional or social maturity. Some of that just has to happen over time, and meanwhile, I need to keep him out of Toddler Jail.
Any moms of lil’ bullies out there? Can you give me some advice for curbing these violent tendencies and get my boy to act sweet in school?